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Sending regards does not cancel a refusal

Attendance is addressed explicitly before a separate request to pass on greetings.

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Fiction inspired by an internet meme, not a resident's quotation or a universal rule of etiquette.

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The situation

A reply arrives to a gathering invitation.

What they say

English meaning: Unfortunately, I can't attend this time. Please give everyone my regards.

Read the Japanese original
残念ですが、今回は出席できません。皆さんによろしく。

The questionWhat does the closing call for?

  1. Accept the absence and pass on regards
  2. Count them as attending because of the greeting
  3. Automatically reschedule the event
  4. Treat the entire reply as sarcasm
Read the explanation

Clues in the scene

Unfortunately, I can't attend this time. Please give everyone my regards.

Attendance is addressed explicitly before a separate request to pass on greetings.

Each choice explained

Accept the absence and pass on regards — Best fit

The answer declines attendance and asks for greetings to be conveyed. Those are two separate instructions to preserve.

Count them as attending because of the greeting — Does not fit

Regards for the group are not acceptance. Counting the speaker as attending removes the earlier refusal.

Automatically reschedule the event — Does not fit

No date change is requested or confirmed. Non-attendance alone does not establish a rescheduled event.

Treat the entire reply as sarcasm — Does not fit

No preceding conflict or tone supports treating the whole message as sarcasm. The explicit refusal and greeting can be read first.

Same words, another scene

After sending this refusal the day before, the person sends a new message saying their commitment was cancelled and they can now attend. The organiser rereads the earlier wording in the record.

The earlier message still declines attendance, but the later message changes the attendance record. Keep what the first reply meant separate from what the person has since confirmed.

I will check the numbers using your new message that you can attend.

Literal meaning

The speaker cannot attend this time and asks that greetings be passed to the others.

What these words cannot tell us

The reason, strength of regret and desire for a date change are not known from this answer.

A question to ask in real life

I will mark you as absent and pass on your regards.

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